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Foreverland: On the Divine Tedium of Marriage

Foreverland: On the Divine Tedium of Marriage

by Heather Havrilesky

Ecco ·2022 ·304 pages
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An illuminating, poignant, and savagely funny examination of modern marriage from Ask Polly advice columnist Heather Havrilesky If falling in love is the peak of human experience, then marriage is the slow descent down that mountain, on a trail built from conflict, compromise, and nagging doubts. Considering the limited economic advantages to marriage, the deluge of other mate options a swipe away, and the fact that almost half of all marriages in the United States end in divorce anyway, why do so many of us still chain ourselves to one human being for life? In Foreverland, Heather Havrilesky illustrates the delights, aggravations, and sublime calamities of her marriage over the span of fifteen years, charting an unpredictable course from meeting her one true love to slowly learning just how much energy is required to keep that love aflame. This refreshingly honest portrait of a marriage reveals that our relationships are not simply "happy" or "unhappy," but something much murkier--at once unsavory, taxing, and deeply satisfying. With tales of fumbled proposals, harrowing suburban migrations, external temptations, and the bewildering insults of growing older, Foreverland is a work of rare candor and insight. Havrilesky traces a path from daydreaming about forever for the first time to understanding what a tedious, glorious drag forever can be.


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"Deliciously sardonic ..."

Publishers Weekly Read review ↗ Top of the Pile

"Havrilesky's portrayal of the gritty underside of marriage is honest and searing."

Hadas Thier· Jacobin Read review ↗ Top of the Pile

"Readers familiar with her exuberant 'Ask Polly' advice column know that she tends toward playful, wordy relentlessness, and in Foreverland she relies on the same sort of hyperbole to deflate widespread idealization of the romantic dyad ..."

Becca Rothfeld· The New Yorker Read review ↗ Near the Top

"Newlyweds, nearlyweds, and golden-anniversary celebrants alike will find much that is familiar, inspiring, and comforting in Havrilesky's clear-eyed paean to marital bliss and blunders."

Carol Haggas· Booklist Read review ↗ Top of the Pile

"The sweeping statements Havrilesky throws into the mix, such as 'marriage is a spectacle, and everyone is invited to watch,' are more like hypotheticals drawn from her life about to be explored, rather than declarations of iron laws ..."

JOHN WARNER· Chicago Tribune Read review ↗ Top of the Pile

"Have I got a book for you!"

Ann Levin· Associated Press Read review ↗ Top of the Pile

"The title and subtitle of her newest memoir-cum- wry social commentary say it all ...A frank look at just how tiresome and lackluster (but ultimately rewarding!) marriage can be ...What works: Havrilesky's neurotic, self-deprecating sense of humor is always on display and adds a comedic twist on universal themes, such as straying and what to do about your spouse's excessively loud bodily functions."

Alexis Burling· San Francisco Chronicle Read review ↗ Near the Top

"But they—we—know where to draw a line."

Joanne Kaufman· The Wall Street Journal Read review ↗ Maybe Someday

"There are times when Havrilesky's interest in writing ambitious prose or making a metaphor work get in the way of her narrative, but overall, this is a delightfully quirky memoir that refreshingly dissects the institution of marriage."

Kirkus Read review ↗ Near the Top

"I know only my own marriage, like her, and I prefer to hide its nuttier moments."

Walter Kirn· The New York Times Read review ↗ Maybe Someday

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